Have you ever found yourself craving someone’s affection, approval, or attention, only to receive it in small, fleeting moments? When love is given in “morsels,” it can leave us feeling starved and constantly seeking more, hoping that next time, it will be enough to fill the void.
This pattern often begins in our closest relationships—with a parent. In attachment theory, individuals with an anxious attachment style often experience a deep need for validation and reassurance in relationships. When they receive only limited or inconsistent affection—those “morsels of love”—it reinforces their sense of insecurity. This drives them to continually seek approval or affection from their partner, parent, or friend, hoping for more consistent connection, but instead, they’re caught in a loop of seeking and feeling unfulfilled. When someone gives love in limited amounts, we may find ourselves working harder and harder, hoping to finally earn their full approval or affection. But these small morsels rarely satisfy; they only leave us wanting more.
Healthy love is abundant, affirming, and given freely. It doesn’t come with conditions or limits. Reflect on the relationships in your life: are you receiving a feast or merely morsels?
We all deserve a love that fills us up and nourishes our hearts. If you’re feeling stuck in a cycle of seeking, know that healing and healthier connections are possible.
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